Her father wrote first. We are glad he did.

Sadia's father sent the first message, which I did not expect and did not mind. We wrote for two weeks before either of us saw a phone number, and I have come to think that was the useful part — there was nothing to do in those two weeks except find out whether we could talk to each other. Our families met in Dhanmondi in the third week. We were engaged before the month was out and married the following Falgun. My mother still tells people she found her, which is not true, and we let her.