I asked about the number. That answer decided it.

My first question to the site, before any of this, was what happens to my phone number. I had put it on two other places and spent a year turning down calls from people who had bought it. Here nobody could see it until we both said yes, and when I tested that by asking, it was true. So I stayed. Farhana and I wrote for nine weeks. The number was exchanged once, at the end, when we both meant it.