We are both quiet people. It suited us.

Neither of us is good at meeting strangers. A room with two families in it is my idea of a difficult evening, and I had already had three of them. Writing first meant that by the time there was a room, there were no strangers in it — we had already got the awkward questions out of the way in text, at our own speed, at eleven at night. Five weeks, then the families, then a small engagement at her uncle's house. We have been married more than two years.